When spouses have decided to opt for divorce, the problem most of them face is whether to go for a litigated divorce or a mediated one. The “F.E.A.R.” of the future is likely to help them in the decision that they make. Here is a low down of what F.E.A.R . in this situation stands for and how it can help you in making your decision regarding the method of a divorce.
“F” stands for Financial
The first thing to consider when deciding on which method of divorce suits you is the financial side of things. How much do you think the financial side is likely to cost you in each method? In a litigated divorce, there are a number of different costs involved, such as the cost of having to register the case, the cost of having to hire a lawyer, paying the costs of the lawyer when the divorce proceedings start etc. Good lawyers will typically take a considerable amount of your finances to hire and fight your case.
On the other hand, if you take a look at divorce mediation, the process is far cheaper. The only cost that you have to pay is the total cost of the mediation process in a lump sum amount which is to be shared amongst the two spouses and won’t only be your cost to bear.
“E” is for Emotions
This is one of the most important things to note. When a couple decides to get a divorce, the method that they choose will determine the level of and type of emotions that they experience. Litigation for example, is a method where the two spouses will have to fight with one another through their lawyers. This can cause emotions of hate and bitterness in the spouses.
On the other hand, in divorce mediation, the primary theme is cooperation and communication. Here, while there may be no love lost between the spouses, an emotion of mutual cooperation and respect will be developed.
“A” is for Analytical
In a litigated divorce, you have hired a lawyer and they are the ones that will ultimately make the strategy. Your role will be limited. In divorce mediation, on the other hand, you are your own spokesman, negotiator and decision maker. This means that you are free to make decisions, analyze the situation and act according to your wishes.
“R” is for Rational
Having looked at all of the factors mentioned above, the ability to make a rational decision as to which method you are going to opt for, will determine the course of your future. On the face of it, for a speedy, easy and empowered divorce, Orange County divorce mediation is the best way.
Gerald A. Maggio is a trained Orange County divorce mediator who has amicably resolved cases many cases out of court, as well as an experienced divorce and family law attorney. Mr. Maggio founded California Divorce Mediators in 2012 with the belief that although “not every marriage can be saved, every family can” and a mission to save families from the financial and emotional distress associated with traditional divorce litigation. California Divorce Mediators is located in Irvine, California, and serves the Orange County area and other counties in California offering divorce mediation, child custody mediation and mediation of other family law matters.