This blog is a continuation of the previous blog “Conflict between Parents after Divorce – Part 1”.
How the Positions In A Divorce Case Affect Future Co-Parenting
One of the most common science quotes is, “Every action has an equal and opposite reaction”. This applies perfectly well in cases of a divorce. Simply put, what you do in your Orange County divorce case will come back to bite you if you are not careful as far as co-parenting goes.
Sometime for example, the threat to a child from one of their parents may be so great that they will have to be kept away from them for their own safety. Yet, these are often rare cases and typically this won’t be the case. So even if there is a high conflict between the parents, the custody of the child can carry on as usual.
The positions you take over co-parenting in a divorce case will go on to dictate the way you act in co-parenting with or without conflict. Hence it is best that any position taken must be taken with care and a strict sense of the future in mind. The one things that can often create conflict in co-parenting after divorce is placing emphasis on something too much, more than it warrants.
How Parental Conflict Can Sometimes End In Better Co-Parenting
When you get into a conflict with the other spouse, emotions of hatred and bitterness are in play. Keeping tabs over these emotions is a great test of character and integrity of a person. The best way to do is by practicing logic and making sure you handle everything with courage.
Yes, conflicts can become ugly most of the times and for a child to see their parents have a conflict even during or after they have gone through a divorce can be testing to say the least. But, on the brighter side, going through conflict actually teaches the divorced parents how to handle their emotions. How to ensure that logic triumphs and how to make sure difficult moments can always be overcome if you have the best interest of the child at heart.
Most parents love their children and would do anything to get their custody, conflict in co parenting teaches the other spouse how they may have love and emotions for the child, but the other parent has the same feelings.
The key to co-parenting is trust and allowing the other parent to enjoy as much space as you do with you child, and once you have had conflict with the other spouse, you will know that the other spouse is as eager as you to spend time with the child.
Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law attorney and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.