Going through a divorce is a tough task on its own and add to that the fact that you have to deal with a narcissist spouse and you may really be at your wit’s end. The fact that you going through a divorce with a narcissist spouse doesn’t necessarily mean that you should suffer through a turbulent and pain-staking divorce. There are ways for you to deal with such a spouse and ensure that your rights are protected throughout the case and after the divorce.
Here are a few things that can be done to protect your rights and make your divorce against a narcissist spouse easier to bear.
Stand Up to the Intimidation
Narcissists believe that the world revolves around them. They will want to avoid changes that are not approved by them and if you have filed for divorce on your own, to them it’s a challenge to their authority. They will typically try and intimidate and threaten you to comply with their wishes. This is especially true if they even have the upper hand in terms of economic contributions to the household. If that is the case, you need to consult your Orange County divorce lawyer and move the court for an injunction against the other spouse to make sure your safety is ensured.
Alert the Court of any Non-Disclosure of Information
Both spouses litigating a divorce case have the right to know about the financial position of the other spouse. This is an important part of the divorce case trial. If the narcissist spouse refuses to cooperate in this regard it is best that you try to compel him or her to provide information, in case they fail to do so, you should alert the court. Courts have the ability to slap the unreasonable spouse in a divorce case with monetary sanctions and fines. Once they start to hurt them, they will start to cooperate.
Use the Court to Get the Judgment Implemented
Often it may be so that the court has passed an order in your favor and have asked the narcissist spouse to give you monthly spousal support. If the narcissist spouse fails to do so and refuses to abide by the judgment you need to contact your divorce lawyer and move the court against the non- compliance. The court can order the non-complying spouse to comply or else fail several other punishments such as a jail sentence, a forceful transfer of the narcissist’s salary to the other spouse etc.
What Not to Do?
A narcissist will use every dirty trick in the book to gain the upper hand in the divorce case. As much is expected of them, yet the situation will go south when you start to do the same things. If you start to leverage against the other spouse unfairly not only will your case weaken but you will also find yourself on the wrong side of the law.
Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law lawyer and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.