People who are undergoing a divorce or have gone through one will know that the stakes are always high when it comes to an Orange county divorce. Increasingly for most people turning these stakes into an amicable solution that can result in an easy, amicable, and low cost divorce is possible because of mediation.
Marriages though need two spouses to make and similar is divorce. The choice of how you’ll end your relation is one that depends on both of the spouses. If you are willing to end it by going through Orange County divorce mediation, you will need to propose it your spouse first.
How you propose Orange County divorce mediation to your spouses will determine if you end up having a low cost, stress free divorce or a high cost, bitter divorce.
Proposing Divorce Mediation to Your Spouse
If both of you are on talking terms there is no one better to propose mediation than you. Mediation can be a tricky one for spouses to understand the first time and you’ll need to allay the fears and apprehensions of your spouse.
But if you and your spouse are not on amicable terms and are not communicating with each other properly, it might be a good idea to use a neutral third party that is well respected by your spouse to propose it to him or her. If your spouse seems a little interested but not entirely sure, schedule a meeting with an Orange County mediator for them to talk and clear their minds.
Here are a few tips for spouse looking to propose mediation.
- Give reasons to support mediation that work best for both of the spouses such as its fairness and low cost.
- Before you set out to tell the mediation tale to your spouse, make sure you have thoroughly researched and read about it. You should know how it works and its costs etc. to truly be able to convince your spouse.
- Give them choices for mediators and let them pick the best one. This will let them feel in charge and more ready to accept the process.
- Keep it subtle. Overselling is never good, neither in the commercial world nor with your spouse. Keep your description of the process brief, focusing only on the major talking points at best. If you try to oversell you spouse might have suspicions you want this to gain an advantage.
- Whatever you do, try not to be forceful about the matter. Stay clear of threats and ultimatums. Your spouse needs to make the decision with her own free that is the only way mediation will prove a success.
- If at first you don’t succeed, try again. Be simple and effective with your words. Make them realize the importance of the process for the children involved in the marriage.
Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law lawyer and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.