One thing that makes Orange County divorce mediation stand head and shoulders above the other divorce resolution methods is the reputation it has for being constructive. Divorce mediation is less emotionally taxing, allowing for less bitterness between the spouses throughout the process. Having said that, anyone who goes through divorce irrespective of whether it is through litigation or mediation will have to face stress. There can be a variety of reasons for stress in a divorce mediation, some of which are as follows:
- Financial uncertainty
- The thought of being alone
- Thoughts of having failed
- The future of the children
- The perception in society
Irrespective of these reasons, what is important for a person going through mediation is to manage this stress. This will be the key to the level of success in your Orange County divorce mediation. Here are some tips to manage your stress:
· Give Yourself Some Time
Do you continue to have fond memories of your teens and your childhood? If that’s the case, you’ll know that one of the reasons for that is the level of enjoyment you had back then. What you must realize now is that enjoyment was because you did things that you wanted to, that you liked to. When you are faced with the problem of stress, this is what you need to do. You need to make sure you give yourself the utmost importance. Go out and try things that you have wanted to, and do things you like.
We realize that you may be feeling stressed and under pressure, but much like a pressure cooker, you should remove the cog and let the pressure out. Read a book that you like, watch a movie, or go dancing. When you feel stressed, that is the time you need to take care of yourself the most, physically, mentally, and spiritually.
· Don’t Forget to Breathe
Sometimes we are so occupied with our stress, anxiety, and pressure that we forget to breathe. Breathe here is not literal but figurative. When you are under immense pressure, that is when you need to pull out all the stocks and keep yourself calm and collected. Try to stay at ease, and breathe deeply for 5 minutes a day, as it has been medically proven to lessen the level of anxiety in a person.
· Look at the End of the Tunnel
Negotiating a divorce can be hard, even a peaceful and cooperative one such as Orange County divorce mediation. Yet, the best way to do that is to stay focused at the end product – the light at the end of the tunnel. As long as you are able to keep your focus on the future, you will be able to keep your stress levels down.
Gerald A. Maggio is a trained Orange County divorce mediator who has amicably resolved cases many cases out of court, as well as an experienced divorce and family law attorney. Mr. Maggio founded California Divorce Mediators in 2012 with the belief that although “not every marriage can be saved, every family can” and a mission to save families from the financial and emotional distress associated with traditional divorce litigation. California Divorce Mediators is located in Irvine, California, and serves the Orange County area and other counties in California offering divorce mediation, child custody mediation and mediation of other family law matters.