The experience of having a divorce is one that very few people would want to relive. The fact that it marks the end of the relationship between a couple that wanted to spend the rest of their lives together is a big shock, and more often than not, spouses tend to take time to get out of the trauma of a divorce. Having said that though, sometimes in life there are situations in a person’s life or events and circumstances that leave the spouses no choice but to part ways and end their relationship.
When couples go through divorce however, there is a sense of competition and will to win to try and get one over the other spouse and be able to satisfy oneself from the defeat of the other. In reality though, this approach needs to be changed. The role of the family law courts is to resolve disputes that exist between the spouses.
Most spouses want to win their divorce cases, as a result of which most of the spouses tend to turn to the family lawyers to gain an advantage, an edge over the other spouse in the proceedings. While all that is likely to help, what is important is working on yourself to make sure you are able to get the most of the divorce proceedings.
Here is a list of the three things that you need to do in order to make the most of your divorce proceedings and get a result in your favor.
This is one of the most important things that are needed for a spouse to be able to enjoy success in the court proceeding. Are you being criticized and incited by your spouse through their actions? The key to this is ignoring all those attacks and stay silent. Silence in this regards refers to calmness, composure, and poise, all of which are needed if you are to stay steadfast in your goal of getting the best deal for yourself in the divorce proceedings.
· Know what you want
In the field of law, there are often cases where one comes across people who have started divorce proceedings against their spouses but are unsure of their own demands and what they want out of the proceedings. This is likely to be a key mistake which is likely to make your case direction-less. The key to making the most of an Orange County divorce case is to know exactly what you want the outcome of the case to be and communicating that to your lawyer so that they are able to work towards it.
· Remember your values
Divorce is likely to leave you with an inner sense of guilt, loneliness, and an acute sense of having failed. These feelings are normal and are typically experienced by all spouses that go through a divorce. What is important is that you realize that these feelings are temporary and will come and go. What you have to keep dear to you are your values. Keep your values with you and your dignity intact, if you are able to do that, your chances of success in the divorce case are bright.
Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law attorney and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.