When one hears the word divorce there are lots of memories or emotions that comes to our minds none of which are likely to be of joy. Divorce continues to be one of the most painfully draining experiences in a person’s life. Whether it is the first night in bed without your spouse or the empty wardrobe cabinet left by them leaving, divorce is packed with trauma. Irrespective of the reasons for your divorce, the feeling of failing at a relationship is more often than not consuming and traumatic emotionally.
With divorce being so traumatic in itself it is important that you stay away from doing anything that compounds the emotional ordeal to greater heights. Here is a guide to a few mistakes that can increase your emotional trauma.
Facing Divorce Alone Without Help
People who are strong willed and clear headed often believe that they are capable and mature enough emotionally to be able to go through the divorce process alone without the need for help. This though is one mistake that can have multiple affects on your life including emotional traumas. When you are going through your divorce you not only need an Orange County divorce lawyer, you also need your friends and family. They act as the rear guard in front of the person trying to strike out the vibes and trying to comfort and console you throughout and post your divorce.
Wanting To Make Buddies With Your Ex
There are a considerably large number of cases where one of the other spouse wants to maintain a health friendship with their ex after they have gone through a divorce. There is no doubting that there are amicably handled, peaceful divorce in the family law courts yet an ex will always be an ex. There are reason that you are your spouse have separated and aren’t living together. If you are willing to make friends with them again, be cautious of the extent of that friendship because chances is that the demons that you wanted to escape with divorce might start to come up in your life again. This could cause you nothing but mental trauma and waste of energies and hopes.
Using Your Divorce As An Excuse
While it is true that divorce is definitely one of the best excuses for all things wrong in one’s life it certainly isn’t the correct one. It is true that people that suffer from divorce are likely to affect your eating, thinking and sleeping capabilities but these cannot be used as an excuse for letting go of your grip on life. You should keep in mind this is but a temporary transition and that in a matter of few days or weeks you will be back to normal with a new life ahead of you to avoid this mistake. In times like these change of heart and attitude is a welcome thing for you and your friends.
Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law attorney and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.
