Divorce mediation is you and your spouse deciding on the best way to end your relationship mutually. Whenever couples decide to get divorced, there are two main ways that the goal of separation can be achieved. One is through mediation and the other is through litigation. Most couples are generally advised to go for divorce mediation in Orange County because this process is all about power to you. Here, there are no lawyers pushing you to go the limits to win your case, or Judges giving judgments that you are uncomfortable about, or an audience that is hearing you and your spouse battle your family issues out in the court.
Divorce mediation is a much calmer dispute resolution and conclusion reaching method. Mediation involves you, your spouse, and the mediator. There is no public gathering to hear your issues. It is a controlled environment where the mediator will give you and your partner the necessary impetus to talk about the issues and reach an amicable resolution.
Mediation is usually preferred by people because of the compromise mentality that it inculcates as opposed to the win-at-all-costs mentality in the court of law. By encouraging couples to talk their difference out, divorce mediators makes sure that you devise a comprehensive conclusion agreement so as to avoid any discrepancies or hiccups along the road in the future.
Mediation as a means to go through divorce is also important because of its relative benefits to the children who are going through the divorce settlement. These children are seeing their parents – who they’ve grown accustomed to living together – part ways, and with it, transforming their lives. Such a spectacle is a devastating loss for the children. They will have the feelings of grief and fear during such a process but divorce mediation is a process that can reduce, if not eliminate, such feelings.
Mediation is a process based on mutual agreement and hence there has to be a relative ease of communication between the couples. Such a relative ease in communication means the children won’t have to face the negativity of their parents battling it out. Also. parents who are going through divorce mediation as opposed to litigation are likely to communicate with their children regarding divorce effectively.
Even those parents that use litigation after mediation saw that their children were better equipped to handle the situation, because they had seen their parents trying to settle the differences between them peacefully in cooperation. Regardless of the process, the trauma of having to lose your parents and being able to enjoy the company of only one of them at a time is likely to be painful as well. Mediation, because of its swifter pace, will keep your children from the trauma of having to go through a divorce longer.
Gerald A. Maggio is an experienced Orange County divorce and family law attorney and family law attorney located in Irvine, California, serving the Orange County and Riverside areas. Mr. Maggio assists clients with legal issues including divorce, legal separation, divorce mediation, child custody, prenuptial agreements, stepparent adoptions, and other family law issues. Mr. Maggio has practiced law in California since 1999, and founded The Maggio Law Firm in 2005, focusing exclusively on divorce and family law matters.