Even ten years ago or less, not many people had ever heard of divorce mediation, and not many attorneys offered such option. Back then, people were quick to acquire the services of a lawyer and drag their financial and personal matters to court. The situation just gets worse from there. Not only you, but also your close relatives, may be caught up in the divorce proceedings as well.
The constant advice on how to handle the matter and the biased stance of your relatives doesn’t help either party view things logically. It turns out to be a grueling process in the end, which leaves the bank account of each partner dried up depending on the fight each side puts up in attaining the assets.
You don’t and in fact shouldn’t put this much stress on yourselves and find a more peaceful way out of the marriage. Divorce mediation is your ticket to getting a divorce without disliking your soon-to-be ex. The following reasons sum up why divorce mediation is the right choice for couples:
1. You will Not Hate Each Other
If the two of you are still able to maintain a level of decorum when around each other, divorce mediation is the right choice for you. Through divorce mediation, both partners will be able to discuss issues openly that plague them. Once the settlement agreement is signed, the two conflicting partners may be able to show respect to each other if they run into each other in the future, as no hard feelings will remain between them.
2. You will Understand Each Other Better
People divorce because they couldn’t get along with each other anymore and often clashed on certain issues. The divorce mediator will see to it that these issues are properly addressed. If an issue about division of property for instance needs to be taken care of, the divorce mediator will present a variety of solutions for the couple to agree on. If one partner rejects an idea while the other partner accepts it, the idea will be thrown out until a mutual decision can be made.
3. You can Make Your Own Decisions
The divorce mediator is only there to help you come to a decision. In the end, it is up to you to decide what the solution to issues such as parenting (if you have kids), property division, amongst others will be. By far, divorce mediation is the perfect way to come to an educated solution to a serious issue. If you had chosen litigation, the judge would be making all of the decisions and not you.
4. You can Save Time and Money
Divorce mediation is a quick process that doesn’t cost you a lot. It is much cheaper than choosing the litigation process to acquire divorce. The mediator is neutral and is thinking about both of you. In a few sittings, many issues can be easily taken care of. If either partner is having scheduling conflicts, the mediator will work with you on deciding a day that works with you both.
Gerald A. Maggio is a trained Orange County divorce mediator who has amicably resolved cases many cases out of court, as well as an experienced divorce and family law attorney. Mr. Maggio founded California Divorce Mediators in 2012 with the belief that although “not every marriage can be saved, every family can” and a mission to save families from the financial and emotional distress associated with traditional divorce litigation. California Divorce Mediators is located in Irvine, California, and serves the Orange County area and other counties in California offering divorce mediation, child custody mediation and mediation of other family law matters.