When two people are on the verge of divorce, they often go with the first option they see, which is litigation. Although litigation is the most commonly sought out process, but have you ever stopped to think if it is the most logical one? In actuality, it is not a logical choice and under only certain circumstances such as mental, physical, and drug abuse is litigation appropriate.
In other circumstances when the divorce is due to irreconcilable differences, the divorcing partners should hire the services of a divorce mediator. Here is why hiring a divorce mediator is the most logical choice for divorcing couples:
1. If Children are Involved
You may or may have children, but if you do, you should choose divorce mediation. As parents, you need to put the needs of your children first. Dragging them into court will not achieve that, as it will only make them more miserable. You don’t want to disgrace your partner in front of your children as well. A couple with kids will only understand how important it is to maintain a co-parenting relationship after the divorce is finalized.
2. If Neither Party has Money
The litigation process is costly and for people who can’t afford it may be left penniless in the end especially if the other spouse’s aim is to take them to the cleaners. On the other hand, divorce mediation is less costly and will save you money. For this reason, discuss with your partner to hire the services of a divorce mediation firm to reach an amicable agreement on issues.
3. If the Parties Want to Remain Civil with Each Other
If you share the same group of friends and have increased chances of running into each other, litigation is the wrong process for you. Divorce mediation will help both you come out like winners. With the help of the mediator, you both would have reached a mutual agreement agreed on by both of you. Leaving the meetings on a friendly note will help you remain on good terms with each other.
4. If the Parties Want to Move On
After the divorce, you want to move on with your lives. You will be unable to if getting a divorce takes longer than you expect. That is why choosing divorce mediation is more logical. It only takes about three to four months to come to an agreement. You both will be able to go back to school, date other people, or move on to another state. Divorce mediation will help you achieve your goals faster.
If you were wondering what the most logical decision to get a divorce is, the answer is divorce mediation. You, your partner, and others around you can benefit from choosing to get an amicable divorce that doesn’t consist of arguments.
Gerald A. Maggio is a trained Orange County divorce mediator who has amicably resolved cases many cases out of court, as well as an experienced divorce and family law attorney. Mr. Maggio founded California Divorce Mediators in 2012 with the belief that although “not every marriage can be saved, every family can” and a mission to save families from the financial and emotional distress associated with traditional divorce litigation. California Divorce Mediators is located in Irvine, California, and serves the Orange County area and other counties in California offering divorce mediation, child custody mediation and mediation of other family law matters.
